When They're Confusing, Here’s What to Do

You’re not asking for too much.
You’re asking the wrong person.

Let’s be clear: mixed signals are a message. If they’re hot and cold, here-but-not-really, “just not sure”, don’t decode it. Don’t spin it. Don’t wait for them to figure it out.

They already have figured it out. They’re just not saying it directly.

Here’s what to do instead:

Step 1: Don’t internalize their confusion.

Their lack of clarity is not a reflection of your worth. You’re not difficult, you’re not “too much,” and you’re not imagining things.
They’re unsure. That’s on them.

Step 2: Let them be confused.

Seriously. Stop trying to fix it.
Let them sit in their indecision while you choose peace over potential.
Half-love is still a kind of heartbreak, just slower.

It is the kind of heartbreak that lingers and fades the relationship or love away slowly.

Step 3: Choose calm over chaos.

The right kind of love won’t leave you spinning.
It will feel grounded, clear, and safe.
Like consistency wearing a face you recognize.

Reminder:

Confusion is not healthy chemistry and it is not love.
Consistent effort is.